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Being Intentional: Not Eating the Bread of Idleness

Hi y’all! Jennifer here with my first study into Being Intentional: A Proverbs 31 Study.

Today we are looking at the verse:

“She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the Bread of idleness” Proverbs 31:27 (ESV)

I have to be honest, I picked this to start with because I am struggling in this department pretty badly right now.  I just can’t seem to get it together lately….I do not feel like I eat the Bread of idleness (well a little) but not enough to account for where I am at in regards to looking after my household.

This was my last Saturday: 

My oldest was excited because she was supposed to start on a jr. bowling league, and we were supposed to be there at 9. 

I woke up late because I never set an alarm, I rely on my husband and the baby. Well, my husband was in the woods for opening day and the baby actually decided to sleep past 7 that morning. I get up, get my oldest up, get us dressed and fed (I am trying to do better about eating out, that will come in a later post), then remember the diaper bag hasn’t been restocked and the stroller is not in the car. So I send my oldest to take the stroller outside while I pack the diaper bag (grabbing an outfit because the baby is still wearing the outfit she ate in) and put the baby in her car seat. My oldest comes inside and says “I’m sorry mommy, the stroller is in the creek”…….what?!?!?! I don’t know exactly how, but she lost control and the stroller is in the creek. I don’t handle this news well, we are late and not ready to go. I have a mini meltdown during which my big toe gets caught in my skirt hem and twist sideways….it hurts like crazy, but I don’t have time to worry about that, I still have to get loaded in the car and get the stroller. (Which luckily was just over the bank, not actually in the creek) by the time we are in the car and going we are super late. As I apologize to my oldest, and pray my toe isn’t broken I realize that there is no way we are making it to this bowling thing in a timely manner. So I calmly explain to my daughter that we are to late, and I really don’t think that at this point we can handle this activity (we have other things already scheduled on a lot of Saturday’s). She takes it well because she is amazing, she is crying and sad but understands. So I turn around and we head back home, me feeling terrible because this horrible morning is really my fault and the fact my child is crying is my fault.I could’ve been better prepared.

 I get home and call the bowling alley only to find out we didn’t have to be there until 9:30 😦 but they have a second half of the season which starts next year so maybe we can do that.

I failed miserably at looking after the ways of my household that morning, and if I’m completely honest I am failing at that pretty regularly lately. I can make excuses, and they would be legitimate…..but still I am not doing what I should to look after my household. 

Being a homemaker is something I wanted to be for years, I love saying I am a homemaker. However, I am not providing the home that I want for my husband, my children, myself, or company. I am far from the home I want and the feeling of home I want my children to remember.

I decided that morning that I would do better….but I haven’t improved much. Today I realized: I need a plan, I need to be organized, I need to ask for help, I need to pray, I need to take steps (no matter how small) to improve this.

Recently in a bible study group we were discussing worry and I commented that I don’t worry, but I get overwhelmed. Things build and build until I just can’t take it anymore. A sweet friend said that she has found journaling helpful as she gets overwhelmed. 

So tomorrow that is my goal, I will take a binder and using dividers I will make sections for different aspects of my life. I will add paper and then start making notes for each thing in my life that I have to take care of. I am going to also look at different cleaning routines and add that to the book, and I think I will make a cute cover with today’s verse on it to help keep me motivated and on task. I will share with you later how that goes.

I have to admit, just having a plan makes me feel better!

Do you have any tips on being organized? 

Favorite cleaning routines?

Favorite daily routines?

I would love to hear them!

I will post again in a few days to let you know how I am progressing and what I have found that works!

Until next time,